Leslie Ludy - Three Questions

Rejoice in Your Femininity!

It happened a few years ago. I was in the clothes department when I noticed my reflection in a body mirror hanging next to a rack of blouses. As the image peered back at me, I was astonished how unfeminine I appeared. I was modest and covered, but far from lovely and attractive. Feeling repulsed, it was that moment I realized the reason I did not feel like a lady!

Since that day, I have taken an effort to dress in a feminine way and it has been a fun and rewarding journey. I love being a lady and it is a joy appearing and feeling like one. Through dressing lady-like, it has been a simple reminder to me in this feminist culture that God did create me distinctly to be a woman and I love expressing my femininity by dressing and striving to be one inside and out.

I used to be confused of what being feminine really meant. So many imagines seemed to roll in my mind when I heard the word. Sometimes it was roses, pearls....or lace and bows. Other times it was perhaps anything associated with the color pink.

Because it is easy to have a incorrect view of femininity, society has made it undesirable. Some think that if they are to "feminine" implies that they are to be weak, delicate, or dainty. Others think they must dress like preps with tall high heels, perfectly curled hair, dangling jewels and a perfect manicure. Some get the idea femininity is the girl who's too pretty to go outside, too fragile to have fun, and makes a fuss if she breaks a nail. Of course, all of these views are far from the real thing.

I have come to discover that true femininity is much more than what one wears (even though it indeed is a big part of it!). Through research and from reading the Scriptures, I have realized that true femininity is something in the heart---a heart ultimately surrendered to Christ and His designs for women according to His Word. Because really, a feminist can wear a skirt too.

Biblical femininity is delighting in how God made us as women and is dressing and acting in a way that defines our gender and brings glory to Him. It doesn't mean that a lady cannot drive a truck, ride a horse, or even wear pants. Instead, it is something that starts inside of her and proceeds to her outward appearance and attitude as she realizes and embraces who God created her to be and the distinct role He created her for.

When you rejoice in the way God created you and embrace your femininity, you bring glory to Christ. He created you to be a woman for a reason. Don't try to change it, hide it, or be ashamed of it! Being a woman and being feminine is a wonderful thing and something we should delight in. Expressing our femininity is one way we please the God who created us and show the world that we love Him and are happy to be who He has made us to be. I encourage you to surrender your femininity to Christ and treasure, embrace, and delight in being a woman!

All the Days of Her Life

Proverbs 31:10-12
Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies....
She will do him [her husband] good and not evil all the days of her life.

Once a woman marries, she chooses to love, cherish, give herself to, and grow in intimacy with only one man for the rest of her life. With her vows and covenant before God, she promises to forsake all other men and promises to be faithful to her husband until death parts them. These are obvious assumptions regarding marriage, but the question is---why wait to begin loving that one man until he comes into your life, puts a ring on your finger, or marries you?

Verse 12 in Proverbs 31 has always stood out to me. A virtuous woman will seek to do her husband good "all the days of her life." We don't read "until she gets married" or "once he asks her to be his." Instead, the virtuous woman will do her husband good all her days, which well includes the days before her prince comes into her life. It was because of this verse that I realized faithfulness to my future groom did not begin on my wedding day but long before I met him.

If we are to marry, God has a special man picked out just for us to spend the rest of our lives with. Because God never intended for us to use our single years to have intimate opposite sex relationships until the right one comes, we should not wait to be faithful to our future mates. Instead we should prepare being virtuous wives by striving to do our future husbands good long before he comes into our lives.

How can I do my future husband good now?

There are several things you can be doing now for your future husband, which I call the four P's. :) You can be preserving, preparing, praying, and patiently waiting for him.

Preserve yourself for him. One of the best things you can do for your future husband is to love him by saving yourself for him. You can do this by dressing modestly, guarding your affections, and saving all physical intimacy for your future marriage.

Prepare for him. Prepare for a future, Christ-centered marriage by training to be a godly woman, growing in character, learning to run a home, and perhaps even saving some special items in a hope chest.

Pray for him. You can pray for the man God has for you long before you meet him. This is something that will greatly bless him and will add much "good" to his life now and in the future.

Patiently wait for him. God's way and timing is perfect. Determine that until God brings that special man in your life, you are going to patiently wait for him by being faithful, waiting on God's timing, and keeping your focus on loving and serving Christ.


The benefits for doing your husband good long before you meet him are great. Not only will you have his full trust (Proverbs 31:11), but you will also have so much to give him once you join your life to his. It may be difficult at times to be considerate of a man you may have never met, but once the day comes that you give yourself fully to him and you walk down the aisle to meet him on your wedding day, you will have no regrets and your groom will be so grateful. God will indeed bless you. So don't wait until you have a wedding dress or a ring on your finger to begin honoring your future husband. Start doing him good by loving and being considerate of him right now. This is a gift that will truly one day bless his heart.

Refreshing Reads for 2010

Looking for a good book to read in 2010? Well, I have many to recommend to you! I read some of the most inspiring books in 2009 and hopefully after getting a taste of some of them, it will spur you to read them as well :) Enjoy! (BTW: these are in no particular order in case you are wondering)

1. Set A-Part Femininity by Leslie Ludy

This is one of the most inspiring and challenging books to godliness I've ever read. This book is a radical call to living a counterculture lifestyle for the glory of God. It is a fresh vision of God's amazing purpose for our lives as young women and I think every female should read this book.


2. Womanly Dominion by Mark Chanski

This is one of the best books I've ever read. Centering on the subject of women's roles and duties according to God, it is great encouragement to our high calling to wife and motherhood. I cheered and verbally praised God while turning through each page. It was so straight-forward and so liberating! Instead of desiring something we were not created to be or do, Chanski encourages and inspires women to "play their position" with all their might and with a desire to "win it" for the glory of God." If we as women would just do this and whole-heartily embrace our job, we'd be so fulfilled and there would be so much to accomplish for God. I loved the perspective of Chanski to "get in there and do what you're supposed to do with all you've got!" This book is so precious to me because it's a subject that is dear to my heart. I thank the Lord for this publication.


3. Lady In Waiting by Jackie Kendall

This is a great book and one of my tops. It focuses on what we as ladies should be doing in our unmarried years by focusing on developing certain character qualities (which are based on the Biblical character of Ruth). This book is a must-read for all young ladies.


4. A Man Worth Waiting For: How to Avoid a Bozo by Jackie Kendall

This book is a sequel to A Lady In Waiting and is a worth reading if you are unmarried. Jackie shows us throughout the book detailed descriptions of a man we should be waiting for--a Boaz (from the Biblical hero from the book of Ruth), and the one we should avoid---the Bozos. It's also a reminder of what we should be striving to become if we want a have a Boaz.


5. Beautiful in God's Eyes by Elizabeth George

Another top read of mine! A beautiful book exploring the joyous outlook, feminine grace, and strength of character of the Proverbs 31 woman and how we can be one too. It's informative, inspiring, and very practical.


6. Improving Your Serve by Charles Swindoll

I, Me, Mine, Myself---it's the monument of self, and it's what most people spend the majority of their lives building. This book is about not being a getter, but a giver----not a superstar, but a servant. Its message is counter-culture to what we're used to, but the very heart is focusing on what God calls the greatest, and that is being a servant. If you read this, make sure you have a highlighter ready because there's lots to think about and remember :)


7. Crazy Love by Francis Chan

From the back of the book: "Does something deep inside your heart long to break free from the status quo? Are you hungry for an authentic faith that addresses the problems of our world with tangible, even radical, solutions? God is calling you to a passionate love relationship with Himself. Because the answer to religious complacency isn't working harder at a list of do's and don'ts----it's falling in love with God. And once you encounter His love....you'll never be the same."

-All I have to say: this book will wake you up to real Christian living. It's so worth the read.


8. 20 and Counting by Michelle and JimBob Duggar

I loved this book! It gave me a deeper appreciation for the Duggar family (even though I had much respect for them before I read it!). I loved reading about their history and the behind-the-scenes details of their lives. It was also full of special resources, tips, recipes, and other things (reading about their methods of child discipline and training was very interesting!). Most of all, I appreciated the Duggar's heart to be used for the Lord for His glory. Their testimony really blessed me :)


9. Christian Modesty and the Undressing of America by Jeff Pollard

After reading this book you'll never look at modesty the same again. It's also very eye-opening as it reveals the progressive acceptance of public nakedness relating to the bathing suit industry. Really recommend this!


10. Mother by Kathleen Norris

This is a novel which portrays the importance of motherhood. It touched me in a special way and I couldn't help to tear up towards the ending. I hope to pass this book down to my own children one day.


11. A Thankful Heart by Carole Lewis

Centered on the verse, 1 Thess. 5:18, this book could sincerely change your life. Carole shows us how we can practically apply this verse to our life using several examples from her own. This book is so worth the read and I promise it will bless you greatly if you do.


12. What He Must Be If He Wants to Marry My Daughter by Voddie Baucham

Another wonderful book about what we should be looking for in a young man. Another must read for daughters and parents alike!


13. How to Become a Straight A Student by Cal Newport

This book is a lifesaver! I know without a doubt that it has saved me from much pain and meaningless hours of unprofitable study time at school. My plan for college was to just jump on the boat of tradition of how the normal student studies and prepares for class. I am so thankful that Cal has showed us a better, more effective way!! His book makes sense and is very practical. I love how he gives examples of how students can apply step by step the ideas he presents. This is an excellent book and mandatory for all college students.


14. Fireproof: the novel by Eric Wilson

Though I've seen the movie and knew the message of the plot, something about the novel made the truths in the story more real and special to me. I was spurred on to the meaning of true love and really enjoyed going behind the scenes of the characters from the movie. I really enjoyed it and learned a lot of Biblical truths too.


15. Biography of Watchman Nee

This is one of my favorite and one of the best biographies I have ever read. Watchman's testimony inspired my heart deeply. My Mom has always encouraged me to read it and I finally did last year and I'm so glad I did. If you wish to be inspired to a deeper faith and love for Christ, this is the book to read.



16. One Thing You Can't Do In Heaven by Mark Cahill

I can't tell you what an inspiration this book was! This message on witnessing is full of encouragement and many stories. Mark Cahill is such a wonderful example of one who has given his life completely to God and the work of the gospel. His book is full of practical tips on sharing the gospel if you don't know where to start, and great real-life stories of inspiration if you need a boost to do it more. Either way, you will not be sorry if you read this book.